‘99% of People Get Married to Have Kids, He Is Not Wrong’

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Explaining the explanation behind their choice to half methods, Akanksha stated, “Now, he desires to have youngsters, and I can’t give him that. Nahi hein mere mein intuition, woh maine bohot pehle bol diya tha (I don’t have the intuition, I had instructed him lengthy again). Jab mujhe realise ho gaya ki major bani hello nahi hu iss cheez ke liye, maine tabhi hello bol diya tha ki major nahi karne waali hoon (After I realised that I’m not meant for this, I had instructed him that I cannot do it again then itself). So we had a dialogue the place I instructed him, if you wish to go away me, then go away me, truthful sufficient. Log shaadi isliye karte hain (Individuals get married for this), let’s be trustworthy… 99% wish to get married as a result of they wish to have youngsters and household aagey badhana hain, warna aap kyu shaadi karoge (You wish to keep on the household lineage, in any other case why would you marry?). He isn’t incorrect on his half. After which Bigg Boss occurred, and I realised that isko bohot zyaada hain aur major nahi kar paa rahi hoon (He desires it, and I’m unable to do this). For me, I don’t wish to put him in that state of affairs.”

Akanksha additionally clarified that she doesn’t want to undertake and desires to stay child-free. Gaurav has not commented publicly on the matter. Nonetheless, throughout Bigg Boss 19, he had shared with Mridul Tiwari that he needs to have youngsters, however Akanksha is just not ready. He talked about that his spouse desires to concentrate on her profession now.

The couple’s relationship timeline

First assembly: Gaurav Khanna first seen Akanksha Chamola throughout an audition. She was new to the trade and didn’t recognise him, assuming he too was a newcomer. She even gave him ideas for the audition, whereas Gaurav later admitted it was love at first sight.

The Google second: After providing to drop her to a different audition, Gaurav jokingly requested Akanksha to go looking his title on Google whereas they have been driving. That’s when she realised he was already a identified tv actor.

Friendship to romance: The 2 turned shut pals, began assembly steadily and their friendship regularly become a romantic relationship.

Proposal and wedding ceremony: Gaurav proposed to Akanksha in a dreamy setting adorned with round 100 balloons. The couple received married on November 23, 2016, in Kanpur within the presence of household and shut pals, together with Hussain Kuwajerwala, Anuj Sachdeva and Puja Banerjee.

Age distinction: Gaurav, born in 1981, is 9 years older than Akanksha, who was born in 1991. Akanksha has beforehand stated the age hole by no means bothered her as a result of she wanted a mature partner, though her mother and father initially had reservations.

Profession journeys: Gaurav went on to turn into a family title with exhibits like CID and Anupamaa, later profitable Bigg Boss 19 and becoming a member of Khatron Ke Khiladi 15. Akanksha constructed her personal tv profession with exhibits together with Swaragini, Bhootu and Can You See Me after finishing a postgraduate diploma in commerce.

Parenthood variations: Throughout Bigg Boss 19, Gaurav shared that he needed youngsters, whereas Akanksha wished to concentrate on her profession.

Divorce: Through the premiere of Lock Upp season 2, Akanksha publicly confirmed that the couple have been divorcing, explaining that her choice to stay child-free and Gaurav’s need to turn into a father had in the end led them to half methods.

The couple’s story has sparked a wider dialog about compatibility, altering life targets and whether or not variations over having youngsters will be reconciled inside a wedding. How ought to {couples} navigate such conversations, and what can they do when their expectations concerning the future not align? We requested an skilled.

Discussing parenthood earlier than marriage

Sonal Khangarot, counsellor and psychotherapist at The Reply Room, tells indianexpress.com, “The choice to have youngsters is without doubt one of the most important conversations a pair can have earlier than marriage. Discussions round parenthood, fertility expectations, timelines, and even the selection to stay child-free assist companions perceive one another’s values and life targets. Within the Indian context, the place societal and household pressures round having youngsters will be intense, avoiding these conversations can result in resentment, disappointment, and battle later.”

Nonetheless, she notes, folks evolve. A companion who as soon as needed youngsters could change their thoughts attributable to profession aspirations, well being considerations, financial realities, or private experiences. Such shifts don’t make both particular person incorrect, however they will create profound grief and incompatibility. “The bottom line is to method these adjustments with empathy, trustworthy communication, and, if wanted, skilled counselling. Generally {couples} discover a center floor; at different occasions, they could want to just accept that their life targets have diverged,” says Khangarot.

DISCLAIMER: This text is predicated on info from the general public area and/or the consultants we spoke to.